POINTS ON HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR LIFE

在众多的forward email里，发现了这一篇很有意思的
和大家分享

作者是一位胰腺癌（Pancreatic cancer ）患者-- Randy Pausch
某一大学教授
离世前发表了一本名为“The Last Lecture” 的书，2007年畅销书之一 。

他写了这篇美丽的“守则”给他的妻子和儿女。

句句话都很值得深思......希望可以帮到你，and improve ur life!! ^^

Personality:

1. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
2. Don't have negative thoughts of things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment
3. Don't over do; keep your limits
4. Don't take yourself so seriously; no one else does
5. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip
6. Dream more while you are awake
7. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need..
8. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner of his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
9. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
10. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present
11. No one is in charge of your happiness except you
12. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn.
Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
13. Smile and laugh more
14. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

Community:

15. Call your family often
16. Each day give something good to others
17. Forgive everyone for everything
18. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6
19. Try to make at least three people smile each day
20. What other people think of you is none of your business
21. Your job will not take care of you when you are sick. Your family and friends will. Stay in touch.

Life:

22. Put GOD first in anything and everything that you think, say and do.
23. GOD heals everything
24. Do the right things
25. However good or bad a situation is, it will change
26. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up
27. The best is yet to come
28. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful
29. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it
30. If you know GOD you will always be happy. So, be happy.

While you practice all of the above, share this knowledge with the people you love, people you school with,
people you play with, people you work with and people you live with.

Not only will it enrich YOUR life, but also that of those around you.

人吵架的時候，什麼最重要？

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人吵架的時候，什麼最重要？
驕傲？
自尊？
面子？
輸贏？

這些都不重要
最重要的仍然是你心愛的那個人
最重要的仍然是你們這份得來不易的感情
本來在愛情裡，不管是爭執或衝突，
只要最後能協調、能化解就好了，哪有什麼贏者或輸家
真要爭誰贏誰輸，誰有面子誰又低聲下氣，
最後賠上的只是這份感情，誰也沒贏
~~實際上是兩敗俱傷~~
有沒有想過，爭吵的目的是為什麼？
其實不是單純的為了道理講理，
而是對方不肯讓你，男生女生亦然，

因此爭吵到了最後其實早已偏離主題，而是為了賭一口氣。
好大的一口氣，代價不貲。
和好的時候，才體認出那些，
淚也白流了，氣也白生了，是何必？還是活該？

人生氣的時候，什麼狠絕的話都說的出來，什麼惡毒的事也做的出來。

但有情人生氣的時候，也必定保有溫暖的情懷，就看妳看不看得出來而妳看不看得出來，就看妳了不了解他，信不信任他。

生氣時不說氣話也不做惡事，真的很難，但起碼要學會退而求其次，懂得從中去感受原本就存在於兩人間的情意，

不消太多腦力，其實只要用一點心，有愛情的時候，其實什麼都好談，但一般人不易發現，也不太會利用這個道理。
希望每個人都能珍惜自己所擁有的情緣, 不一定是愛情

記得有一句話：「世界上有千萬種藥,就是沒有後悔的藥」
真的！後悔也沒有用了....... 與大家共勉之 ........
 

千萬不要拿一份真情賭氣，那是非常不值得的

【沒有解決不了的問題，只有不肯面對的人】

90/10

90/10 Principles of Stephen Covey

10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. 

We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%. How? By your reaction. 

You cannot control a red light., but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react. Let's take an example. 

You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just what happened. What happens when the next will be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. 

After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter. 

Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?  

A) Did the coffee cause it?

B) Did your daughter cause it?

C) Did the policeman cause it?

D) Did you cause it?

The answer is "D".

You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have happened. Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say," It's ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having. Notice the difference? 

Two different scenarios.

Both started the same.

Both ended different.

Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.

If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc. How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work ? Why let the cars ruin your drive? 

Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it. You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job. 

The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse. 

Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle. 

The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.

我 们的一言一语，一举一动都影响着身边的每一个人...

结 果是好是坏，只在一瞬间。三思而后行，你好我好大家都好!